Children are often the forgotten mourners when someone dies, but they grieve and need just as much support as adults. This book is for children of all ages who are adjusting to the death of someone close to them. It can be read systematically or simply dipped into at will and contains art exercises throughout to enable children to express their own story. Bill Merrington is an experienced Anglican priest and counsellor and here he offers useful, supportive and practical advice to young people. His approach is fresh, original, user-friendly and attractive.
- This is a Lovely Book Review by Extracts from Wendy Rayner - Bereavement Care Journal
What I like about this book is its format: to each of the 101 ways to cope it matches an analogy with a related activity to help children express their feelings example No 23, ‘Fizzy Drinks’, states: ‘It can really shake you up when someone dies, and all the feelings get jumbled up just like gas in a fizzy drink can.’ Here the suggested activity is: ‘Draw a fizzy drink can, think of a name for it, design the label and then say what would be in the can of feeling.’
Some activities are very similar to the ones in the Muddles, Puddles, and Sunshine workbook published by Winston’s Wish for younger children from 5 to 12 years (depending on their developmental age). But, whereas the Winston’s Wish book is possibly more suited to be used with a carer or a bereavement volunteer, When Someone Dies can also be used by older children on their own.
There is also a helpful section at the back of the book with advice to adults on ways to help children cope.
In summary, I found this a useful book that I think children and younger people will find relevant to their lives, as will carers and bereavement workers.
(Posted on 05/04/2011)
When Someone Dies,1501144,Bill Merrington,9781848671065